The Week of the Ugly Cry

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas! I know I did! Maybe some of you are lucky enough to still be on holidays. Either way, it's Monday people, and that means it's time for our weekly draw. This week- because it's the last week of the year, I've drawn up two additional cards to spice things up! (Woo! Super spicy, I know!)

We have the 3 of Swords, The Heartless Love, and the Miracles Now card- "stillness is the key to success". It appears this week there should be a focus on love and relationships, because they don't seem to be going well eh? Hopefully that will change later this week for New Years Eve festivities! The last quarter moon on January 2nd has sun in Capricorn squaring the Moon in Libra. This will be a time of figuring out whats working in your relationships and what's not. Some things may be said in haste this week. Or maybe you've already planned a New Years Eve party without consulting your partner and some passive-aggressive arguments could arise.
If you're single, watch out for "players". With Venus moving into Sagittarius this week, the focus on super intimate (one-on-one) relationships moves to a more universal love. Your crush may be more interested in flirting with everyone, and moving from person to person for the fun of it. Having a heartfelt conversation away from the party might not be on the radar.

The 3 of swords is a reminder that any sorrow or loss experienced this week needs to be dealt with. In order to grow and move on, you need to do the ugly cry, (get it all out), grieve, and then move on. Pain can be a very strong motivator to push yourself forward. The Heart of Faerie Oracle card- The Heartless Love also has to do with heartbreak, and false expectations. Are you expecting too much of your partner, and ultimately causing your own heartache? Are you showing compassion towards someone, or trying to hurt them with your words in order to boost your own ego?

"Stillness is the key to success"
This week might not be the week, to kiss your crush at midnight when the New Years ball drops, or propose to your true love, or expect your partner to do X, Y, and Z and then give them the cold shoulder. This week is about being still. Waiting. Observing. Thinking before you speak. Contemplating your relationship. Don't make any impulsive decisions, or speak out of haste. Sometimes we have the expectation that New Years Eve should be perfect, and when you kiss your love at midnight rainbows will shoot out of your ass, and all will be well with the world. Only to be disappointed that bills still need to be paid, and work needs to be done.

I don't mean to sound like a debbie-downer, but really thinking about where your partner is coming from, what your expectations are, and why you have them, is important to think about. With 2016 just around the corner, now is the time to think about how you want to feel in your relationships, an how can you improve them in 2016?

Affirmation for the week: "Stillness is the key to success"


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Cancer Full Moon on Christmas

2015 has been an interesting year, and we (almost) end it with a full moon on Christmas day (exciting!). I'm pretty stoked because the full moon will be in Cancer, my sister sign to Pisces (I have a BFF that's a Cancer!)

Full moon's are about making things happen, or, new beginnings. Signing the contract at work, finally buying that special something online you've been wanting, getting your certification in the mail. With the full moon in Cancer, there is a strong focus on close family/friends, and the home. You may finally decide what colour to paint the living room, order that new couch, or make that long awaited phone call to your mother, that you should have made months ago! Feeling warm and fuzzy with those we love could bring some very meaningful, or sentimental conversation to the Christmas table. On the flip side, you may want more solitude, and just staying at home cozied-up on the couch with your favourite Christmas movie, and hot chocolate, may just be what the doctor ordered.

The sun is in Capricorn which could bring some confusion to those sensitive water signs. Capricorn is career, the public eye, structure, and rules, which doesn't blend well with Cancer. Finding a balance between career and home life will be challenging, but very very necessary this holiday season!
Uranus in Aries could make this a very potent week for success, and manifesting that success! If you have big dreams around home/family life, and/or work life, now is the time to create that vision board, write an affirmation in your journal, and take the steps toward fulfilling those desires!

This Week- 3 of Cups (Party Time!)

How perfect is this weeks card draw? 3 of Cups- just in time for Christmas, and that full moon in Cancer! (3 of Cups is mercury in cancer to-boot! I'll be talking more about this upcoming full moon later this week!)

But, lets get started with this weeks draw! On this card, we have 3 figures toasting to each other, and dancing around happily. They look like they're having a great time! This card represents emotional abundance, and a spiritual harvest. Three represents harmony. What ever you have been working on; (especially relationships, or any "inner work") well- you'll be seeing the fruits of your labour! Now is a time to gather your best buds together, pour a glass of wine and celebrate your successes. With Christmas later this week, it's probably very likely that you'll be out-and-about spreading good cheer where ever you go. Chatting with family and friends could be easier this week, and perhaps conversations will be a little more meaningful.
This card can also indicate an engagement, baby/wedding shower, or an invitation to a party.
Enjoy yourself this week! Talk about what you have accomplished this year (big or small!) rather than what you never checked off your new years resolutions list earlier this year. Be encouraging to others too. Let them know you're taking notice of their successes, and make a toast to them. Giving someone a genuine compliment not only makes them feel good, but it will make you feel good too. Give thanks to those that support you, and show support to others in return.
Throw on some tunes, pour a glass of wine (or egg nog, what ever tickles your fancy) and let loose honey!

Affirmation for the week: "I am emotionally abundant!"


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How a Mindful Christmas Will Change Your Life!

Here's my 4 Steps to Staying Mindful This Holiday Season!

1.  Don't over indulge, but don't miss out either. Have that glass of wine and chocolates dammit, just not 5 glasses of wine, and 2 boxes of chocolates all to yourself. Moderation people! It's the holiday season- don't go on that diet you meant to start during the summer. This is NOT the time of year to start diets, or any drastic changes to your diet. Remind yourself it's okay to eat that gingerbread cookie. Have some fun! Don't give yourself an anxiety attack trying to keep track of your sugar/calorie intake. Another great practice involving food is mindful eating. Consciously eat slower and savour every bite! Instead of inhaling your Christmas feast, chew slower and longer. You'll really taste the food, and you'll feel grateful for every bite!

2. With the moderation in food, there should also be moderation of people too. Some people dread going to visit family over Christmas. If you're one of these people, set some boundaries. If you know a family member is going to start talking about a subject matter that makes you cringe- don't entertain it! 

"Ya, but-"

NO. Seriously- change the subject matter, start a conversation with someone else, or excuse yourself to the bathroom or outside for some fresh air. Don't feel like you HAVE to partake in ugly conversations.

Set a strict time limit. Instead of spending 6 hours with your crazy family, cut it down to four or three. Tell them in advance too. I find that if I'm in a large crowd of people for more than a couple of hours my energy starts dropping drastically and I feel cranky. I'm emotionally drained! If you often feel like this- set a time limit! 

3. Remember to breathe! Standing in endless lines buying gifts, returning gifts, waiting at the airport- it's easy to get flustered and start saying things like,

"why isn't this line moving faster?!"

"The people who work here are terrible!"

"Nobody has any sense of personal space or manners!" etc. etc. 

Suddenly your agony is completely the fault of the random stranger standing in front of you, who's probably thinking the same things. 

While you have those moments of waiting- take a deep breath. Ask yourself where you feel tension. Let go of the tension. More deep breaths. It's going to be okay!

4. Remind yourself what Christmas is really about. Why are you celebrating it? Is it just about the gifts and chaos? Or does it mean something else for you? (Hopefully something more meaningful!)

I remember when I started focusing on what Christmas meant to me (family, good food, good wine, and relaxing) the stress and anxiety of trying to find the "perfect" gift for every single person in my life drifted away. I've personally got to a point now where Christmas isn't about me anymore. I much prefer to see the look of 'awe' on my kid's faces when Santa's eaten the cookies and left gifts. It's magic! That makes me happier than receiving anything. As I get older I realize I don't need much anyway. I have everything I need and then some. It's easy to get caught up in the consumerism of Christmas. If you find yourself in this state, remind yourself what's really important to you.

This Week- The Lovers

This weeks draw is: The Lovers

*cue the Barry White*
ooh yaa......

The Lovers is a lovely card to have this week! This card is ruled by the mutable air sign Gemini which is very much about duality. We have two naked, vulnerable figures being blessed by an angel. The woman looks to the angel while the man looks to the woman. In the background a tall mountain stands between them. 6 is a number of marriage, and awareness of spirit and matter emerging.
Ultimately this card is about love. But, love takes many forms. It can mean marriage, or blossoming partnership. But it can also be talking about the love we have for ourselves. Loving the feminine and masculine energy within ourselves, and also the light and dark aspects of ourselves.
It can also mean love (in general) is a big part of your life right now. However the mountain between them can mean a challenge. A challenge overcome can lead to enlightenment though.
Talking about duality again- the lovers is about making wise choices. Is your judgement being clouded by love? Are you being tempted? Love can be a beautiful, wonderful thing, but it can also make us do crazy things, and it's important to keep your wits about you.

This week, invite more love into your life, and self love too! Don't forget about yourself okay?

This weeks Affirmation: "I am love!"

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The Importance of Shadow Work

A week or so ago, I found myself in a place I hadn't been in a long time. Not a physical space, a mental space.

It was a dark one. One of judging, assuming, accusing, and negative emotions that I could physically feel. I was complaining about an acquaintance, and every time I thought about this person, anger bubbled inside of me. I hadn't felt anger physically like that towards someone in a long time. Why now? What was it about this person that got me SO riled up? Even while I was complaining about this person and putting them down, I said to myself in my mind:
'This isn't me. I don't do this. WHY am I doing this?!'

After venting- purging this negative emotional vomit- I decided to sit down and do some shadow work regarding this person, and myself. I don't compare myself to people, or ever feel like I need to be in competition with anyone, but with this person I did. I needed to understand why.

Shadow work never fails me. It works every time! What I was actually afraid of becoming, were the characteristics of this person. I try so hard to be positive all the time, that I was ultimately suppressing some of these characteristics and was resisting them so hard! It's great to be positive, but if we ignore the negative completely we end up bottling them up, only for them to overflow and make a mess later. Which was what happened to me.
It was a very enlightening experience, and as soon as I was finished with the writing exercise, I felt a weight had lifted! I understood myself better, by acknowledging my shadow side. I no longer felt so much hate and anger toward this person. In fact, I could have cared less. I understood where they might be coming from, and they only know what they know, right?
I said, "good luck to you, now off you go!"
Then off I went too.


Card is from: Miracles Now Affirmation Deck